The Quiet Violence of Shrinking to Fit || Daddy Emmanuel Oumarou 🇨🇲
The quality of your life is inextricably linked to the quality of your connections. Recognizing and aligning yourself with the right people is not just a social preference; it is one of life’s greatest blessings and an intentional step toward a fulfilling existence. To fully experience this, you must understand the distinction between fitting in and belonging.
Fitting in is an act of performance; it requires you to hollow out parts of yourself to squeeze into a space that was never meant for you. Belonging is an act of being; it is where you are valued for who you truly are, rather than who you pretend to be.
You must stop the exhausting and pointless labor of forcing yourself into lives that do not want you. If you have to continually convince someone of your worth, or if your presence feels like a burden, you are in the wrong environment. If you have to force a connection, it is not a connection; it is a cage. Stop committing the quiet violence of shrinking yourself to fit into circles that do not welcome you. This is not a failure, but a strategic choice to preserve your worth and vital energy.
Your energy is a precious resource. Redirect it. Invest it where you are genuinely supported, valued, and encouraged. Withdraw from environments of mere tolerance and actively seek those where you are celebrated. Seek your true tribe—the people who recognize your worth, who listen to your ideas, and harness them with affection. By courageously releasing what drains you (unwelcoming circles) and investing in what nourishes you (circles where you are valued), you claim the profound blessing of true belonging.
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