DON'T LET THE "DADDY" AND "PAPA" OBSESSION KILL YOU.

DON'T LET THE "DADDY" AND "PAPA" OBSESSION KILL YOU.

This lesson is especially for the young minister/Pastor who becomes obsessed in being a "daddy" and a "Papa" over God's people, to the point he is offended when not addressed so and feels proud when called so. You probably don't understand the mess this mindset is dragging you into. 

This is the mindset spreading so wildly in our day today amongst most young ministers that set an ungodly precedence. Probably because they have seen this in the older ministers and envy "the glory" with no clue of the process, as it is common today. This is the obsession that makes you think you deserve a certain loyalty from the saints, for a responsibility you don't carry. It is this exaggeration that leads to the distortion of family ties in the community because you want people give you a loyalty they owe their biological parents at their own detriment. 

The evil of not being able to draw the line between biological fatherhood and "spiritual fatherhood" (or leadership) is resulting in a lot of young ministers (and even some old ones) being stressed up about loyalty and causing many fall off with their biological parents. Please, draw the line; you are not a divider of families! 

As a Pastor, you can NEVER EVER occupy the role of a biological father to the entire church. Someone once said, some Pastors demand a loyalty which they will never allow their own biological children to give anyone. This is why it is very important for a Pastor in particular to be family oriented. Will you allow your own biological children "serve the church" or another person as you want others do? Think! 

The loyalty you want from the church members whom you call your "sons and daughters", does it conflict with the loyalty due their biological parents? Do you understand the distinction? If all biological parents allow their responsibilities on your shoulders, can you manage that for just 10 members in church? You see why we must be careful with the exaggeration of this obsession to be called "Daddy" or "Papa". I once asked; What's wrong with being called a Pastor? Will you die if called so? Is it an inferior appellation?

To the young Pastor; avoid these traps that can make you fall off favour with God. As you grow and age in the ministry, there'll be some that will call you Pastor yet esteem you as a father. Some will call you Papa and not even see a Pastor in you. Some will call you Daddy and seek the responsibility of a biological father from you. Some will just recognize you as a foster father. All of these are heavy responsibilities, you may have no clue about. Be wise to educate them rightly and accept just the responsibility given you.

"Don't answer a title/name for a responsibility you don't carry". Be wise.

As you age in the ministry, for one reason or another, the Lord may give you just a handful to whom you may actually deal with as a biological family and be responsible for them in that capacity and in close proximity. The mistake you don't want to make is assume to have this responsibility over the whole assembly. YOU CAN'T! YOU WILL NEVER! GOD NEVER GAVE YOU THAT.

Stay a Pastor. Leave those who want to esteem you differently to do so within the confinement of God's Word. Your parents couldn't manage three of you, yet you want to impose spiritual fatherhood over the church at the detriment of biological fatherhood, demanding a loyalty for a responsibility you cannot carry. Save yourself from this foolishness, or get into the trending evils of the time. 

Don't say you weren't advised. 

~ Pastor Daniel Nyah Allo speaks 🗣️