IF YOU DON'T KNOW THIS, DON'T MARRY A PASTOR

The word pastor here is used inclusive of every called minister of God. 

1. HIS BOSS IS GOD: A pastor's boss is God. Know when to leave him alone with the one who has called him rather than demanding attention even when he must be with God alone. 

2. HE IS A MAN OF PEOPLE: A pastor is someone who is called to serve humanity with no expectations of reward from man but God. If you are not willing to accept people, don't marry a pastor. 

3. HE MUST LOVE, FORGIVE AND CARRY EVEN HIS HATERS WITH LOVE: There is no resentment in ministry. If you are a lady who is resentful and lack tolerance, don't marry a pastor otherwise you will destroy his ministry. It is in ministry that those you love and you are sacrificing everything for will be fighting you behind. The pastor's wife must be a lady who is easy to forgive, let go, give room to offenses and have the ability to manage all without bitterness.

4. THE PASTOR IS A FATHER: A pastor is a father to all, including those who don't even see him as a father. A lady who is not willing to be a mother over people must not accept the responsibility of marrying a pastor. But if she must do, she must assume the role of a mother. A mother provides, comforts and cleans the children's mess without condemning. 

5. DON'T MARRY A PASTOR IF YOU ARE A JEALOUS TYPE: Wait ma, jealousy is normal for who you love, but extreme jealousy is dangerous for you marrying a pastor. Ladies will come around him, I mean he will pastor all genders so if at every slight contact you become jealous, you will ruin the pastor's ministry to the opposite gender. However, this doesn't mean the pastor should be loosed with ladies or the wife should give more than necessary allowances. As a lady, create a relationship with the ladies around your husband. See yourself as a mother over them and relate to them the same way your husband does. This creates a mutual relationship that is prioritized. I don't know how better to put this. 

6. DON'T MARRY A PASTOR IF YOU HAVE TRUST ISSUE: There must be trust in marriage. You can't just start accusing your pastor husband because he is on a phone call with a lady. Are you meaning to say his ministry should only be to men? This is an aspect that creates a lot of controversies in most clergy homes. Trust your husband and let him know you trust him. This gives him the confidence. Sometimes lack of trust can even trigger people misbehaving. Nothing pains like accusing an innocent man who loves you and does everything to be there for you. 

7. DON'T MARRY A PASTOR IF YOU CAN'T TOLERATE HIS LEADERSHIP: If you are a woman who fights for equality and wants to be equal in authority with your pastor husband in ministry, it is a grave mistake to marry a pastor. Marrying a Pastor means you should learn submission. Your husband is under God's authority and you as his wife you are under his. You are not equal with him in the ministry. Your major duty is to help him succeed in the assignment, pray for him and the assignment and provide help where necessary. You should be your husband's biggest support, not his slightest rival. 

8. YOUR PASTOR HUSBAND MAY NOT SPEND ALL THE NIGHT ON THE BED WITH YOU: Remember that he has to be alone most nights to pray with God. 

I promised to write on "The Family Altar" and i will do that soon. That we are husband and wife does not mean we will always pray together. Why it is important to have a family altar, there is need for individual altars. For example;

✓ the man has his lone time with God.

✓ the wife has her lone time with God.

✓ the couples have together time with God. 

✓ the children also have their individual time with God.

✓ then there is the family altar where  everyone comes together. 

This means that it is not everything I start praying that I want someone praying beside me. Sometimes people just want to be alone with God or even themselves. It is important to create this understanding for a healthy home to thrive. 

9. DON'T MARRY A PASTOR IF YOU CAN'T ENDURE HIS TRAVELS: If Everytime your man wants to travel results to you picking up a fight, don't marry a pastor. You must be emotionally strong to stand back and watch the home and ministry in your husband's absence. 

10. IF YOU ARE NOT A GIVER, DON'T MARRY A PASTOR: Pastor's are lavished givers. However, a pastor should partner with his wife and ensure she in support of giving but the woman must not be a barrier to charitable acts. They should do this together happily. 

11. DON'T MARRY A PASTOR IF YOU HAVE ISSUES WITH RESPECT: You an example to other women in the ministry. Your attitude and behaviors entails how the other women will treat their husbands. Ensure you give your best in honoring your husband as your head. The lady being the crown must present herself honorably and be treated as such by the husband. 

12. Falling in love with a pastor is not enough reason to marry a pastor. You must understand who you are getting married to and understand your responsibility in his personal life, in the marriage, and in the ministry. 

13. Marrying a Pastor doesn't mean you won't pursue your own career, but you must be his greatest supporter and provide help just as he does yours, that's what matters most in marriage. 

14. DON'T MARRY A PASTOR IF YOU ARE A SEX ADDICT: While it is very important for your pastor husband to satisfy your sexual needs in marriage, don't expect that he would be on bed satisfying you all night on every single day in the week. Remember that he is first a wife to his Lord, before he is a husband to you. Allow him time to meditate and pray. But some pastors love this food sha. Make them take am easy. Dear Pastor, it is your marriage, but doing it every night will affect your ministry output. It's just an advise. 

15. Your pastor husband is your;

✓ boss

✓ your man of God

✓ your friend

✓ your husband. 

Know when to appear to him in each of the above respects. 

16. Church money is not your husband's money. Ministerial donations are not your husband's, so don't expect him to take you out to expensive restaurants with ministry money. Appreciate the little he is doing from his own pocket. 

17. Don't marry a man (pastor precisely) if you are not in love with his vision and assignment. If you are not so much in love with what he is called to do, leave him alone. 

Revival is coming 🔥

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