I AM NOT A WOMAN BUT I MUST SAY THIS..
Recently ,one of my daughters shared something on her status and it was made up of a question and numerous answers for one to be selected.
WHO SHOULD HAVE A PURPOSE IN MARRIAGE?
1. Only the husband and the wife should follow the husband's purpose
2. The wife and the husband should follow the wife's purpose
3. Both parties should have their respective purposes
4. Both parties should live anyhow
So in an attempt to answer her question, I told her answer number 3 is what I go in for.
Both parties should have their respective purpose and one person must use theirs to support the other's and in the case of marriage the woman plays the supportive role with her purpose.
Amazingly, my daughter said she thought it was answer number 1.
Only the man should have a purpose and the woman follows the husband's purpose.
As good as that sounds ,as christian as that sounds,as submissive that may sound,to me that's wickedness manifested in the name of marriage .
If we accept this concept,then what we mean to say is every single lady has no purpose and that will mean God created empty and useless vessels.
God is not and will never be a wasteful creator .
Secondly ,if we accept this concept ,what we mean is without marriage a woman can't fulfill destiny and I strongly believe not every one on earth was destined to be married.
Ask Apostle Paul,he actually felt like marriage can even become a hindrance to destiny fulfillment ,that's what I think.
The concept that the African man thinks true submission in marriage is when a sister totally looses herself in an attempt to support her husband is not godly at all.
Before you marry a lady,she had dreams,she had plans ,she had goals and targets in life,marrying such aspiring lady and expect her to suspend her life for your sake will only breed an unfulfilled wife and hence build a very toxic home.
I speak from a little expirience, I married my wife and wanted to turn her into a full time mami pastor and that was the biggest mistake I made in my marriage in our early days.
I realized prayer became a burden to her,fasting became a burden to her,studies became a burden to her,then i sat her down and questioned her on what she desires to become in life as she supports me in ministry .
Please,this isn't a standard but a proposed solution to many homes .
She now said,she loves midwifery and I decided to send her to a nursing school where she could study her dream purpose, men and brethren ,that was the breakthrough in my home.
She pursued her purpose and then ministry became easy for her to manage ,she became the help I needed all along .
In very few cases will God ask the lady to suspend her life for the urgency of the man's calling .
Sorry to say this,most pastor's wives are unfulfilled.
Most fathers who made this "mistake" back then ,later sent their wives back to school
Sorry to say this,most African wives are not fulfilled and they can't speak up.
They live in depression,solatory and inner regrets.
Just give that sister the opportunity to pursue her purpose and you will see how submissive she can be to you.
When you force submission it doesn't come from the heart but when you allow a willing woman love and submit to you ,marriage becomes heaven on earth.
What do I even know,I'm just 6 years in the business of marriage.
Let the fathers give us counsel on these high matters .
God help us
Happy weekend in addy.
Teaching Prophet
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